Stylish Or Trendy – Does Your Style Have Style?

Would you rather be stylish or trendy? Not sure of the difference? Style is certainly a difficult thing to label. However, when you see a woman with style, you know it. Style is not just about the clothing or the fit; it also embodies confidence and self assurance. Another way to put it is when you are stylish, you wear your clothes. When you are trendy, your clothes wear you.

You can develop “a style” of your own that incorporates the latest fads and trends, yet still pale in comparison to someone who is classically stylish. That’s not to say you should avoid trends. Rather you should pick and choose the ones that work for you. Don’t be trendy for the sake of being trendy.
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For example, if you are older, or heavier, or self conscious, it might be best to leave jeggings alone. If you can’t fully embrace the message your clothing sends and wears it in confidence, you won’t pull the look off. You don’t have to have the latest “style” to look stylish. Some classic lines never go out of style.

On the other hand, trends do come and go. If you are going to be trendy, you have to commit to keeping up with the times because there is nothing worse than wearing clothes that have gone out of style. Comfort and confidence both play a big role when it comes to being stylish, but don’t get lazy either. Just because you love a particular set of clothes, fleece, for example, it doesn’t mean you will look stylish in them.

To pin down the elusive concept of being stylish (and isn’t that what we all strive for?) you do need an eye for classic fashion and merge it with the trends you feel confident in. When in doubt, leave trendy outfits on the rack and go with what you know works.


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Are You High Maintenance?

Has anyone ever said you were high maintenance? What does that term mean? It usually has a negative connotation when associated with women, or men. Certain objects can be high maintenance, like sports cars, cashmere sweaters, and fine wine. It tends to make objects more desirable, and people less so.

If high maintenance means you require pampering and enjoy being well groomed and dressed stylishly, then can it really be a bad thing? What’s wrong with ladies, or men, wanting the best from life? However, if you think back to the times you have heard a male friend describe someone as high maintenance, it was probably said as an insult.

High MaintenanceI personally don’t see anything at all wrong with dining in the finest restaurants, and wanting to be lavished with nice gifts. The problem comes when you expect it from someone who is imposition by it. Perhaps your date doesn’t like to spend money excessively for high priced restaurants. Maybe your significant other really can’t afford all of the niceties you demand.

Therein lies the problem. If you want the best from life, and can afford to provide it yourself, no one is going to complain. Of course, the best match is to find a partner with the means to provide well for you and who loves doing so.

What makes someone high maintenance is demanding from others what they don’t want to willingly give It could be in the form of material items, or even time spent together. One thing is for sure, being thought of as high maintenance is a good way to put strife into your relationship.

If you demand a lot from your relationships, you should also be willing to give a lot in return. That way both parties feel lavished upon and no one ends up feeling used.


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Is Your Diamond Free From Conflict?

I love Leonardo DiCaprio for a reason, and it’s not just his good looks and his acting prowess. I love him for the fact that he uses his superstar status symbol to inform the world of things that truly matter. We’ve all seen the 11th Hour, Body of Lies and Blood Diamond – movies that take on controversial subjects in a very commercial way such that millions of people all over the world will have consciousness on the subject.

diamond policyClimate change, terrorism is just some of the controversial topics he has chosen to discuss through his movies. However, my favorite has got to be Blood Diamond because it has made me aware of something I should really be concerned about.

Whenever we have our anniversary, I always wish my husband will be very generous and give me diamonds. Little did I know that diamonds are not as flawless as they seem to be. Just like the movie said, a lot of people die because of the diamond business. Given the fact that just a little over 10% of all jewelry stores in the United States practice a conflict diamond policy – that is, they ensure and disclose the origins of their diamonds – I might as well be wishing for someone to die so that I can put something nice on my ears!

For now I’ll stay away from diamonds, until I am sure that my husband will get them from someone who adheres to a conflict diamond policy. Our anniversaries will have to be celebrated with a nice dinner and a Leo movie date.


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